Been dating this guy for 5 months. We have been exclusive for most of the time and around 2 months ago I asked him about being together officially. He said he didn’t know cuz there’s some things in his life he needed to work on externally and internally. Also because a year ago he go out of a long term relationship that was toxic and she ended up cheating. I told him that if he’s not sure that we shouldn’t be seeing each other. The day after he came back saying he thought about it and he’s not ready for a relationship and it’s better if he lets me go.
After a week of no contact he came back saying he missed me and we saw each other for two more months. I realized that the anxiety of him doing that again was really affecting me and the fact that we were acting like we were together but weren’t officially made me feel unwanted. It’s complicated because I was and still am 100% sure that it’s not that he didn’t like me and that he had no intention or interest in being with another person so I know what he tells me is true even though I don’t understand it.
I contemplated ending things for a while and did it impulsively yesterday. It told him that the anxiety was eating away at me and I couldn’t do it anymore. He said it didn’t feel right ending then and asked if he could call me in a few days to talk. I told him I don’t want to talk to him and hear the same things about how he’s not ready. We agreed that he can call at the end of the week only if he is ready to be with me fully.
I’m struggling with the fact that he was a really good person and the best man I’ve ever been with and he cared for me so much. Should I have just followed through, saw how it played out, and waited with him until he was ready? Or was it right to end it here?