My favorite hobbies are nature related. Hunting, fishing, hiking, mountain biking, and skiing are my go to. (I avoid caving, lmao.) my dating app is mostly tailored to this, with most of my pictures of me doing these activities. But I haven’t gotten any matches really on all of them. Only a few a year usually who don’t reply or are bots. I have others interests like reading and live music and gaming but I want to meet someone who likes to the outdoor adventures with me. Should I change up my profile?
Edit: I should add I do not have a fish picture lmao,
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no it is not. im super into outdoors as well and would love to have a partner who is in it
I go for profiles that indicate being outdoorsy since it’s a hobby for me too. One thing I’d make sure you consider is variety and including activities that you do with others. I love being out, but I also enjoy city life and quiet activities, I’d just try to make sure at least 1-2 pictures is something else. One thing I look for on profiles is proof that a person has a friend group and connections outside of a potential relationship, it feels like a good indicator for a healthy relationship dynamic to me. 39F here, btw. Also, with outdoor photos, avoid more than 1-2 pictures with sunglasses, we want to see eyes!
only if they’re not into that
In my experience, most users of dating sites post that they have a lot of outdoor interests. I think those who don’t would have more difficulty meeting compatible people.
I can only answer to my personal tastes (mid 30’s female), but hunting is a big turn off, fishing is neutral, mountain biking and skiing are positives. If you hike as well or play sports of some kind, then overall it sounds like a decent balance and as long as you don’t chuck pictures of dead animals in front of me we could get along. Reading and live music – positives. Gaming – negative unless you find a girl who games as well (although typically then they’re unlikely to be the outdoorsy type, that would be a unicorn).
I’d focus your profile subtly on the ones which are more likely to be welcomed by the women you are trying to attract, and to avoid an instant “no” (ie. I know for a fact that almost all my girlfriends would reject a man who hunts or is an overly keen fisherman). With that said, you only need to find the right one and not all of the ones, so if you’re authentically you then any match you do get is more likely to be the real deal?!
Depends. Some areas pretty much everyone’s into outdoorsy stuff (like if you live up near the mountains like me.) I guess it depends on the culture around you, what amount of people would be into that versus seeing it as a dealbreaker.
Some people like staying indoors. So yes and no. Because some people love it.
I would swipe away from a profile that had *only* outdoor photos- especially if they are far away and it’s hard to tell what your face looks like. I personally like a good mix of seeing you in your element vs up close and casual
For me it somewhat is. All the activities you listed are a huge time sink (same goes for traveling) and someone having a lot of such pics just means that they won’t be around much for me to see them.
Hunting and fishing probably. The others not so much.
For people who don’t like that, yes. I’m an indoorsy person and put that on my profile. I don’t really care what other people do as long as they know I won’t be involved.
It matters, and it can be a turnoff. I think overall, people like a partner who has a reasonable level of fitness, but not everyone is into roughing it, camping, and definitely not hunting/fishing. Some women hunt, and maybe you’re looking for a girl who does, but many of us find the desire to kill animals for fun to be off-putting. (Women into hunting are comparatively rare, and have no trouble finding guys who share their interests.) Further, she might not want to have to eat wild game or deal with fish guts. She might want to live in a house and, when looking at your mountain biking photos, may envision a future in which she’s cleaning the mud off her floors all the damn time because you “don’t mind a little dirt,” but she really does, because it’s a lot.
The other thing that might be working against you here is the huge time commitment your activities require. Relationships can’t always be penciled into the Thursday afternoon you have open because you’re busy the rest of the time with your skiing adventures. Potential partners want to see room for themselves in your life, for spontaneous outings as a couple, etc. and not expect you to be out all the time doing other stuff, even if they are busy too.
I think a lot of guys imagine that the function of a relationship is “sharing hobbies,” i.e., doing things with a woman that you were already doing by yourself anyway. To many men, it seems like their hobbies are even their core identity, to the point that they don’t see why having a discussion is necessary at all. They could just be out hiking. The woman otoh might be looking to learn about your values, thoughts, feelings, family, hopes for the future and ideally, asking her questions about that stuff too, because chances are, THAT is how she views HER identity.
Not a turn-off, but it’s not my personality. I attract bug bites so its hard for me to enjoy the outdoors. I wouldn’t mind the occasional trip (less than 3 outdoor related a year). However, I would hate to hold someone back if it’s a big part of their personality, which is why I would most likely not match.
I personally am not an outdoorsy person so as long as I’m not forced to always partake in hobbies that I wouldn’t want to be criticized just because I’m a couch potato who is hypothetically dating an active person, so I wouldn’t find someone’s hobbies a turnoff.
I like it when a guy is outdoorsy but not if it’s about summiting every hike or going a certain speed that’s no fun. I look for a mix of setting with the pics
It’s a turn off for people you aren’t looking for. But you want someone outdoorsy to do something with and it won’t be a turn off for those people.
I’d suggest you get a profile review.
I could see hunting and fishing being potential turn offs, but it could also be the kind of photos you have on your profile. At the end of the day, people want to see how you look, without sunglasses, and a general sense of your body type.
I find so many many men are showing sporty, gym or mountain climbing pics. For me, personally, its not a turn off but more of a ‘oh dear, I struggle climbing a hill’. So it deters me. But for outdoorsy/gym living/sporty girls they probably love those pics, so if that’s what you want the pics you describe on your profile sound like perfect pics for you.
If you do regular hiking camping you need woman that is same like you. Otherwise it wont work. You should not be thinking how to adjust to general women, but to find the right woman.
Depending on your age, it may be sending the message that you will be gone every weekend on a fishing trip etc.
You shouldnt misrepresent yourself though. If these things are important they should be included, but perhaps diversify your profile?
Women are all different. You should never tailor your profile for the mass. You go for you.
It’s better to list what you love and eliminate girls right from the start. There are women outdoorsy. I’m one of them and I prioritize guys who are active and want to participate in such activities
Generally holding up deal animals seems to be a red flag. A lot of people will assume you’re MAGA which is also a red flag.
The hunting/fishing stuff would be a pass for me. It’s giving MAGA and I don’t understand how a person could enjoy killing animals.
The other stuff wouldn’t be a negative.
I’m sure you’re not looking for someone like me anyways tho, so I don’t know my advice is very helpful lol.
I think there might just be a lot of people who aren’t as into it as you, and that might make them swipe left! Which is okay! I would personally rather attract a few people who vibe with it than have to hide the things I enjoy at first. I personally am 10x more attracted by a profile that shows someone has hobbies and passions of nearly any kind, but as someone who loves being outdoors, I would see it as a common interest
I’m in Colorado and I don’t date men who don’t hike/ski.
However hunting and fishing killing innocent animals is a huge turnoff. Immediate swipe left seeing any kind of dead animal on dating profile.
Where I am at (or at least to me) no. I’m a woman who hunts and fishes and I included how important that is to me on my profile and have swiped on plenty of profiles that say the same. However, I have kept an eye out for (and have on my profile) other things like loving nights in and dates out etc
Maybe consider how location and app may impact the swipes? I live in an area (mountains) where lots of other outdoorsy people live and get more of those profiles. My app (duet) also lets me set preferences through tags and that also brings more outdoorsy people and people looking for that kind of thing
Could be a turn off but I can’t say anything about the apps. For me yeah it’s a turn off to have a majority of your hobbies be outside related. I’m more of a homebody so I don’t want a guy pestering me to go camping, hiking, and trying to take me to the wilderness all the time. I also find hunting a huge turn off. But I feel like if you are looking for someone who is into that, you probably should keep it there right?
I’m about to get back on OLD and I’m going to be sure to add some indoor hobbies. I dated someone who thought I was 100% outdoors so she tried to be and ended up getting frustrated to the point of breaking up. But the truth is I like playing cards/gaming, reading books, and watching movies as much as I like hiking. But pictures of me reading a book or building model airplanes don’t look as impressive.