Throwaway as I know my colleague is on reddit.
I (30F) work for a government ministry in corporate finance. I’ve been friends with one of my coworkers (30sF) for a couple of years now.
She is friendly with other people across the ministry that I am also friendly with but don’t work as closely with. They are also both 30s F. I’ve hung out with the main woman (I’ll call her Georgia) one on one a lot and think we get along well. We’ve been to each other’s houses for drinks etc and I’ve supported her through a lot of personal family stuff so I thought we were close.
This year we’ve hung around more with the other two women who I like and (thought I) get along with. We made a group chat both on teams at work and WhatsApp and would chat/send memes and the likes on there. The group chat died up about 6 weeks ago and i thought people were just busy etc which is fine. I posted a few memes before I realised no one else was posting or reacting so I stopped.
I realised about a month ago that there is a new teams chat with just the three of them in it. Georgia had it pinned and open on another screen when she asked me to look at her document. From what I saw it’s the same stuff we would post in the old one, not specifically work related. I didn’t say anything and she didn’t minimise the window either. It did hurt to know I’d been excluded as that happened to me during secondary school and Georgia has stated she is very blunt with people and will say if she doesn’t like them/their behaviour. I decided to leave it as it is a work teams chat and perhaps it is related more to the work Georgia does with them.
Fast toward to today and again I am checking a document on her screen for her and her phone goes off. Mine is sitting next to it so I look to see if it’s mine. I see it’s a new WhatsApp chat with the three of them. She mentioned that one of the girls was sending holiday photos but made no mention of the fact it’s new or tried to hide it. She also didn’t seem guilty
This is making me feel worse. I’m obsessively going over all my interactions outside of work with them like I’ve done something wrong and I’m really not sure where to go from here. Do I bring it up and ask about the new chat? Or do i just stay in my lane and pretend I know nothing? Either way I’m feeling shitty and kinda wishing like I never involved myself.
Tl;dr 3 girls from work created new group chats from the one I was in, in both in teams and WhatsApp, I’ve seen them both and don’t know how to go from here