We've been dating for 1year and 9months. This was our first vacation, we bought this Houdini show thinking it was going to be a magic show. It was more of a group song and dance routine, I wasn't all to interested since there was no magic but hoping some would be included. So the incident all starts when there was a solo act of a female gymnast doing a performance with a cloth from the ceiling to the ground. I found the performance to be impressive so I gave it a little applause. Then there was a brother and sister performance and that had a magic box but in it. That was my favorite and made me smile 🙂 after the show was over I saw that my gf looked off so I asked if she was okay a few times but she dismisses it. By the end of the night she brings up the show and says she was bothered by it, I ask why. She says "you applaud the female gymnast performance and she's up in the air spinning and twirling opening up her legs and flashing her private part between her legs." I'm confused and ask "what do you mean? She's completely covered from head to toe." She goes on to say "it's the act of her doing it, opening her legs and you applaud that." Then I say "I'm just applauding the performance that's apart of the show, nothing more." The she gets mad and goes on saying that's I always say "it's just a part of" her reference to a previous time that we went to go watch the movie Sinners and the movie preview showed a trailer with a woman in lingerie for 3 or 4 seconds and she got made that I didn't look away. Saying that both the movie and Houdini shows that I don't have eyes for her. I asked what would she want me to do, she says that she's not answering that. That I should know, I say "I don't want to look away from the performance just because it's a woman, that's miserable to do. I rather not be there and we could do something else." I don't know if she took what she wanted from that sentence she said "it's miserable because you can't keep your eyes off women" I go on explaining"it's not that, it's just I can't sit and watch a show from start to end comfortable because there's a woman and it makes you feel uncomfortable. We don't have to be there, we can do anything else." She tells me that she does not want to not participate in watching shows or movies because I'm the one making her uncomfortable. She does cry during the talk and she does go saying that she does know if she would tell her friends or anyone about this is the way she thinks about things like this that they would all call her crazy, that's no threat to our relationship.
It was a talk that almost lead to a break up.
I'm honestly confused on her stance/point of view
Is this some sort of manipulation?
Could I make things better for the both of us?