I (27F) honestly didn’t think this would bother me as much as it does, but here I am still replaying the conversation days later.
For context, I’m pretty petite, short, slim build, small chest and I’ve always had a naturally curvy lower half. My hips and butt are… a bit dramatic, I guess. It’s not something I tried to achieve, it’s just how I’m built. I’ve always been active, so it’s definitely… noticeable. It’s never really been a problem for me. Growing up, yeah, I got weird comments from guys sometimes, but as an adult I came to accept and even like the way I look. I’ve been in relationships before where I felt completely comfortable in my body.
But the other night, my current boyfriend (30M) made a comment that completely threw me.
We were talking about random stuff, looks, attraction, whatever… and out of nowhere he said he thinks my figure is “off,” like my proportions are “a bit much.” Then laughed and added, “It’s kind of grotesque, to be honest.”
I didn’t know what to say. I sort of laughed it off, but the word stuck. Grotesque. I’ve never had anyone describe me that way. Especially not someone I’m close to. Ever since, I’ve been so in my head. I’ve stopped wearing anything tight around him. I feel awkward just existing in my own body when he’s nearby. I keep wondering if he’s ever actually found me attractive, or if he’s just been tolerating how I look this whole time. I haven’t brought it up again. I don’t want to make a bigger deal out of it than it is, but I also can’t seem to forget it.