I’ve been on dating apps since I was in college. I used to have success with them but now I get nothing on them. I can’t remember the last time I’ve matched let alone had a convo with anyone on there. I blame it partially on the city I live in because it’s one of the worst cities for dating.
Honestly, I’ve just been cold approaching because of it. And personally I like it that way. Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. I don’t use cheese pickup lines and I don’t try to force convo. I just talk with intentionality and trying to know them beyond just trying to get their number. I think it’s also made me less afraid of rejection. I see it as applying for a job. Sometimes you’ll get it. Sometimes you won’t. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes you gotta look elsewhere.
Modern day dating sucks for both men and women. But I think particularly more for men. Women are on their guard more now (rightfully so) because of creeps and weirdos making it harder sometimes to have a convo. But I think we shouldn’t give up on the old fashioned way of just approaching people and just seeing where it goes.
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Dating apps are a business primarily. Men can pay for them, but the people who created them want lifelong subscribers.
I love your mentality!
I try to figure out where people are generally in my town on the weekends and do an in person approach. Dating apps are way worse now. I get next to no response then I used to in years past.