I’m someone who has come from a family which has suffered immensely because of cheating and then i got married recently. Today my husband told me he doesn’t believe in monogamous relationships, he will not cheat because it’ll hurt me. But if i was more open to it, he would have liked to explore more and my whole world fell apart.
I have deep trauma about all of this and this is a surprise for me, coming from the person i chose for myself.
I have friends who have open marriages, I don’t support it but I don’t interfere in their affairs either.
But this is in my home, and I can never trust this man ever again because he will not NOT pursue something because he doesn’t want to or he believes that it’s not the right thing to do, he will not do it for me. And that might sound romantic, but in my experience, if you don’t do something because of someone else, it never works out. You gotta not do it because of yourself.