I F30 have been seeing this guy M29 for about three months. He has some past trauma from a previous relationship that he’s been working through. After the first month, when everything felt really mutual and balanced, it now seems like he’s emotionally distancing himself out of fear of getting too involved. He’s still present and shows up, but he doesn’t take much initiative, which limits both physical and emotional closeness.
For example, I’ll be hugging him in bed and he’ll say something like, “This isn’t too intimate, like a couple thing, is it?” but then he’ll stay in the moment and enjoy it. On the other hand, he stopped taking the initiative to hug me first.
What’s the best way to handle this? I genuinely want to give him time, but I can’t help feeling a little off sometimes.