People who lead with looks and status in dating tend to believe that they are rejected due to intimidation. “Oh they saw my value, and realised they can’t afford me!” But this is such a cop out. If you are dating from a place of an unhealthy ego, you probably lack the necessary emotional availability for a healthy relationship. You might feel the need to prove your worth by bragging about your accomplishments, but no healthy person wants to compete with their partner.
I think this really applies to “nice” men and women. They are a bit neurotic so they put on this egocentric mask to hide their emotional instability. Men might try to suppress emotions to apear more stoic, and women try to be the “cool girl.” They might even attract each other, but because the connection is from a place of insecure validation neither person feels fulfilled in the relationship.
If you are one of these people, hete’s my solution: work on being emotionally secure! So much that you don't feel the need for external validation. Those insecurities are literally pushing away emotionally healthy people. I'm not sure insecure people are that aware of it, but they really come across as self centered which is a big turn off.