TLDR I have a single female friend (29f) who does things that make me feel like she has other feelings. Is it fair for me to feel she’s giving mixed signals? Or is our friendship totally normal male/female friendship
On one hand, we talk an inappropriate amount at work and it’s caused issues for both of us but we continue to do it. We’ve talked about past relationships, life and what we want out of it, family stuff…some of it is deeply personal. We’ve asked a million topical questions like “what’s your favorite color” like we’re 13 and she remembers what I tell her. She’s asked me about my dating preferences several times and joked that they better not exclude her. She’s complimented my appearance and compared me to celebrities she’s “in love” with. When I told her something about someone that broke my heart she inserted herself into that situation as a “I wouldn’t have”. Another time on a similar note I talked about a past relationship and she said “I would have loved to be her”. She plays tricks on me with male friends and when I ask her why she literally says “I wanted to see your reaction”. We traded songs a couple times and a couple of hers were super heavy handed, I retaliated by also picking some that were obviously supposed to be about her and she said she loved one of them. I’m often openly flirty and she hasn’t called me on it.
But on the other hand, she says we’re FRIENDS. Like 9000 times, unprompted. A weird amount of times. She is flirty generally, I think. I somewhat suspect something is going on with her and someone else but she has told me that it isn’t and then been at different times been vague about it.
So, is it fair for me to feel like she’s at a minimum giving mixed signals? Or am I projecting what I want into it and she’s totally being normal.