I (29M) have gone on several dates with the most beautiful woman (33F). She has been doing hair since she was a teenager and now she owns a salon. She’s divorced. She’s petite and has dark hair. Perfect teeth. She has a slight southern accent that gets stronger when she drinks. Her voice is low and very sexy. She has gorgeous brown eyes. We both want kids. We’re both financial stable.
When we spend time together, the best part is the way she looks at me. She’s calm. She’s mature. We can share a long, comfortable silence. She smiles at me so sweetly. When I look into her eyes I feel like we’re both visualizing a vibrant future together. I haven’t been this excited about someone in months.
But there’s some chemical smell that’s really throwing me off. I didn’t notice it on the first date, but I’ve really smelled it on every subsequent date. I told my coworker about it and she said it could be some kind of product she’s putting in her hair. That would make sense because I definitely smell it when I’m walking behind her. And, yknow she works in hair and her hair always looks great. So I guess that could be it? But I also sort of taste it when we’re frenching. Closed-mouth smooch, don’t taste it at all. Her hair gets in her mouth a lot…?
Her dad is a dentist and one time I thought I spotted a small piece of metal behind her right mandibular canine. So, another theory I have is that maybe there’s some sort of bracket back there and food is getting caught in it. Like maybe even if she cleans aggressively, there’s buildup over time of like…soy sauce? Dairy? And maybe, over time, that residual food matter is giving rise to this smell. But that wouldn’t explain why I can smell it walking behind her
It smells/tastes sort of fermented. It’s gross. It’s like some kind of rotten chemical smell. I really like her but I just don’t think I can stand this odor. I want to address it with her but I’ll have to be careful… how I approach it …
She’s just so intentional about beauty/appearance stuff that I feel like she’s not gonna be open to any comments from me about what she should or shouldn’t put in her hair. Like she wouldn’t be using this stuff if she liked how her hair looked without it
Tonight I’m supposed to go to her place for the first time. We’ve been trying to move slow. I am sort of thinking about rummaging through stuff in her bathroom and trying to find the source of the odor.
One time, we went on a date right after she worked a long shift at the salon. We were standing by her car, touching, being affectionate, etc. She said something about being sweaty from work. As a cute little joke, I lifted up her arm and took a huge whiff of her armpit and she laughed
Her armpit smelled FINE!!! So I don’t think it’s a pheromonal incompatibility type of thing. It’s something unnatural. Maybe it’s a lotion. Maybe it’s makeup. My coworker thinks it’s hair oil. I seriously doubt it’s perfume; whatever this substance is made for, it’s definitely not made to smell good
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So. Based on the facts as I have explained them—do you feel like I should try to solve the smell thing or do you think I should just bail on her