I think I often confuse people who show any signs of hesitation with them not actually being interested. Which leads me to wonder, what does it actually look like for someone to lead you on?
Specifically, what signals do they feign? Is it even possible to fake attraction to such a degree (e.g. not being able to keep your eyes off someone, constantly touching)? How far will they go? Like, is faking emotional intimacy something that's used?
I'm way too paranoid that people can just do this to me with no repercussions.
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I’ve had the same issue….. I need answers too
I think the best way to see if you’re being used is it be direct with them and progress the relationship forward.
Being direct as in asking questions about the relationship and where it’s heading, as well as solving problems. Someone who’s using you will avoid real conversations & solving problems. Since they’re not in it for the long run there’s no incentive for them to spend effort making a good relationship with you.
Progressing the relationship works too. Someone who is just using you isn’t going to want to further the commitment. Public dates, meeting friends / family, moving in together. That’s how relationships progress and if there’s not working towards that then they don’t want a relationship with you.