Honestly? These apps are poison. For almost 6 years i have spent probably an hour a day swiping (with exception of the few and far between times I was actually dating someone) and for what? To get a match maybe once every 2 months and they ghost? I had exactly one positive experience come out of hinge almost a year ago and it also ended.

This ain't worth it ya'll. Its frustrating and depressing. Im happy for everyone that its worked out for, but really im starting to think its better to just have fewer options out in the real world.

So I deleted all the apps today, and I already feel 100x better. Feels like I took weights off my legs, and im not tryna marathon my romantic life anymore.


33 comments

  1. That’s grand and all but wait until the temptation for a quick swipe comes back. Or when you feel a pang of loneliness and need to impotently do something about it.

  3. A job well done. I’m off the apps, too. I’ve accepted our generation is absolute trash for dating. I want marriage, children, legacy, and lineage. The ones I’ve dated want to hookup at their big ages, are mentally disturbed, or haven’t done the inner work to become better partners.

  4. You honestly just have to keep putting efffort in like it’s a job, there’s a lid for every pot

  5. I think I’ll delete my account too. I’m just the one asking questions and no one seems interested in asking me anything back xD feels like real conversation isn’t even possible…

  6. Side note, I looked at your profile and you’re a super handsome guy, would definitely be my type and I’d have gone out with you if we matched

  7. Good for you, I keep them mainly to play hot or not every few months after a drink but it’s just not for me. It just feels unnatural to meet someone like that, I want to meet someone organically and get to know each other before it becomes a possible romantic thing. I hate going into a conversation knowing you’re both trying to attract the other I’d much rather make a friend and then let it grow

  8. I met my ex on apps and we were together for 2 1/years. then I met my partner on apps and we’ve been together three years. they can work.

  10. i got rid of all dating apps. i’d rather be alone then deal with what i’ve dealt with from those sites. they are horrible

  13. Ive been off them for over a year now. Granted I was dating someone for a majority of that time, but havent gone back on them since my breakup. It’s a really good feeling

  15. You’re just in the wrong location for who you are. Your profile is fine. Just seems you are a bad culture fit for where you live/population wise.

  16. Welll done mate. Good looking, kind, successful men’s self confidence are being ruined by these appalling platforms. Don’t play anymore. Just live life and it will happen

  17. I did the same thing. Too much disappointment because you know the douche bags are getting matches and good guys aren’t

  18. I sometimes wonder if it would be good if there was a registry for those that went to therapy, verified by their therapists that they have improved on various metrics, verifiable community involvement, & references that go back a decade or so that would be something incredibly helpful/ useful. But then eventually it would unfortunately go the way of the apps. People would be paying to have all these things verified & given a stamp of approval. Good luck, at least you have peace in your life.

  20. Ive been on and off, maybe swipe once a week but i think inactivity also shoots down exposure to the right people. Did you use premium or a paid option? I feel like everything is rigged unless you pay.

  21. It’s just hard when our generation doesn’t really do the cold approaching. Finding hobbies with like-minded people seems to be the only answer, especially if you work from home like I do.

  22. The apps are horrible for everyone; a friend said you can even find their pitch decks where they expound on their user retention. They don’t care if you meet anyone.

    There are tons of live dating events cropping up that are actually GOOD – full disclosure, I run one, but running one has led me to meet others in this space. [Pitch a Friend](https://www.pitch-a-friend.com/#cities) is in like 80+ cities at this point, and if nothing else, it’s really cute to see how people go nuts for their besties. [Chaotic Singles](https://chaoticsinglesparty.com/) is in 10+ cities; I’ve been twice and had a blast. Personally, I have a rotation of 10 cities with my show: I run a comedy/dating show called [Love Isn’t Blind](https://www.instagram.com/alli_goldi/) and have tons of success stories – even a marriage!

    I also personally deleted the apps a year or 2 ago and got so much life back. Good luck!

  23. Good for you. I never had anything worthwhile come from them either.. At least you know if there’s chemistry with someone when you meet them in person to see if there’s the potential to pursue a relationship.

  24. I’ve been debating on losing the apps too for a while…just feels like a true waste of time and honestly depressing

  26. I recently decided to download tinder again after being off dating apps for awhile. It’s only been a month and man I feel your frustration, contemplating on deleting the app again.

  27. I got tired of them, so much swiping for that Lil dopamine hit, and then to be ghosted.

    Been a couple of years now, dont regret it.

  28. Same. Got matches, got dates, didn’t get anything meaningful or genuine past a month long relationship. A lot of surface level conversations and brief interactions

  29. I’ve never been into dating apps, but my sister met her husband on Hinge, and they got married within 6 months, so idk man.

  30. I’m in the same boat- I think I’m going to instead focus on searching for things that might interest me and explore those. Nobody has everything in life figured out, so if I can continue my personal development in every other way, I might be able to accept that lack of romance/sex are what keep me imperfect.

  31. I was on & off the apps for 8 years. Deleted a year ago. Won’t touch it anytime soon. Tempted, but I know it’s unlikely to yield anything I want.

    8 years I’ve gotten 5 matches that actually got past like 3 messages. Two of the matches I dated for about a month(these matches were 3 years apart – just for reference). Neither of them worked out just felt like we weren’t compatible. The sex was ok. The dates were fun. Just had different priorities in life.

    It really makes you question if something is wrong with yourself but in reality there isn’t. The problem with these dating sites is the algorithm. When you first sign up it puts you at the top of the deck. People actually see your profile. If your profile doesn’t immediately pop off it slowly works its way to the bottom. This means instead of showing up on the 10th swipe you won’t show until the 100th. This compounds because now even less people are liking your profile and it puts you all the way at the bottom. You can spend $$ and buy the premium accounts and whatever maybe it boosts you up to the top but still dependent on who’s swiping on your profile. It’s really just a money grab.

  33. I wish I could do the same but damn, man. Like 24 out of my last 25 dates were from online women.

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