Today I’m feeling a bit discouraged 🙁
I had been talking to someone I really liked, but I started to notice he was very self-focused and didn’t ask deeper questions. My instinct told me he wasn’t truly looking for a relationship, just companionship. I, on the other hand, am looking for a committed relationship. Still, I decided to give it a try.
This was my first experience meeting someone after a long time. I went on a date with him, it was pleasant, and I had fun, but he talked mostly about himself and didn’t follow up on what I shared. After a few more days of talking, I realized we weren’t looking for the same thing. So, I thanked him for the time we shared and wished him well.
I’ve already been in a long relationship with someone who was emotionally unavailable, which was very difficult for me. From that experience, I learned to recognize the signs when someone isn’t ready for a real connection. Many people think they want a relationship, but when things get serious, that’s when the problems start. That’s why I decided to let this go before getting more involved.
I really believe that timing matters a lot in love. Staying with someone you know isn’t right, out of fear of not meeting someone else, or because of the effort it took to connect, can end up costing much more than it’s worth.
This time, I set clear boundaries: I didn’t text too much, because texting is not dating, and I focused on planning a real date. In the end, I followed my instincts, stayed true to what I’m looking for, and closed it with gratitude and a goodbye.
At least it wasn’t a bad experience. I did something really good for myself, I feel like I’ve leveled up by not choosing what’s bad for me. But still, I feel like I need a hug. I feel sad 🙁 and I know that’s just part of the dating process.