Well, the title is my problem and I'd like some advice. I've been on 5 first dates this year and every woman basically told me she had a good time, but didnt feel anything. And well, it's not like I am doing anything. Conversation is not an issue, I've had fun talks with these women, but looking back I've not been actively flirty on these dates literally even once. Thing is, while I am on the date I am having a good time and not being flirty is what feels natural to me, it's not like I am deliberately suppressing such notions. It's only afterwards that I think "well, you might wanna be a little physical or something" and by that point I already get turned down. How do I change my approach? It's not like I am asexual and have zero bodily desires, I just have zero intent to be anything but nice while on the date. And it's not in a cliche nice guy way either, I just feel like there's no other way for me to be around other people, or in this case dates, without drastically changing myself.