I’m 19F and my boyfriend is 23M. We’ve been dating for a little over a month, so the relationship is still pretty new and this is actually my first real relationship. So far things have been really good. We have a lot in common and I genuinely enjoy spending time with him.
The thing is, he has way more sexual experience than me. He’s been with over 10 women, while I haven’t been with anyone yet. We haven’t even had sex together, but one day out of nowhere he started talking about sexual fantasies while we were hanging out. Most of them were unusual, but the one that shocked me the most was him saying he wanted to have group sex in the future. I was really caught off guard and stormed away at first because I assumed he meant a threesome with another woman. Later we talked it through, he apologized, and I thought that was the end of it.
But over the next few days he started bringing it up again, subtly at first, and I got annoyed. Eventually I decided to listen, and it turned out to be worse than I expected. He said he wanted me to have sex with other men while he watched, sometimes joining in, and sometimes even involving another woman.
I just sat there listening and tried to seem understanding, but inside I felt angry and sad. I still feel like a kid fresh out of high school, and we haven’t even slept together yet, so I don’t understand why he’s already bringing this up. However after he was done explaining his fantasy he thanked me multiple times for listening and understanding and started being more affectionate? This just seems so stupid and childish to me.
Does anyone know what his logic might be? I really don’t feel okay with it, but I also still really like him. I just don’t know if this is a reason to break up, but it has definitely been taking a toll on me.