So I (18F) have been single for about a year now after getting out of a long-term relationship that honestly left me emotionally drained. I’ve gone on a handful of dates since then — some were okay, a couple were awful, and one I thought had potential until he ghosted after three weeks of talking daily.
Now I’m back on the apps, trying to stay open-minded, but I find myself getting turned off by the smallest things. Typos, bad grammar, low-effort openers, even just the vibe of someone being too intense too soon — I just swipe left or stop replying. I’m starting to wonder if I’ve become too picky or if I’ve just learned to recognize red flags earlier.
I want to find someone real. Someone emotionally mature, communicative, and genuinely kind. But I’m worried I might be setting the bar too high or self-sabotaging by not giving people enough of a chance.
Anyone else go through this after a rough breakup? How do you balance protecting your peace without closing yourself off completely?
Any advice or personal experiences welcome.