Hey! Im facing sort of a dilemma in both my sexual needs and the relationship I’m in, and I wanted more outside perspectives on how to navigate something like this.
So my bf (20m) and I (21f) have been dating for about 10 months. This is not my first long term relationship and we’re both in college.
Overall, I think things are good. We communicate well, we are happy, we love each other. However, tonight we talked about something that had honestly been bothering me a lot recently, and really for as long as our relationship has been.
To put it simply, I am a very very kinky person. I desire some pretty heavy domination and have many fantasies I’m hoping to try throughout my life. My bf on the other hand is very vanilla. He has tried in some ways to meet me where I’m at, but I can sense he doesn’t love it, and it’s not nearly enough as what my heart truly desires.
On the other hand, sex is not the main focus in a relationship. I love him deeply and he is so good to me. He also pleases me well and isn’t bad in bed by no means. But I’m struggling to determine if the kinky lifestyle I want is something I can live the rest of my life without.
How do I navigate this?