Hey everyone,
I’m 27 and I’d say I’m doing well socially. I get along with people, I get invited out, I’m liked by both men and women, and I often get hit on. So it’s not that I’m isolated or invisible on the surface, I do fine.
But when it comes to friendship depth, I’ve noticed a clear pattern. I’ve tried accepting invitations from guys my age or younger, but those interactions often leave me feeling unfulfilled. The conversations usually lack maturity, intellectual curiosity, or depth. Even when everyone is nice, I just don’t find myself resonating with the topics or the vibe.
Because of that, I naturally gravitate toward older men as friends at work, at the gym, or in different social settings. What’s interesting is that it doesn’t feel one-sided: more mature men also seem to resonate with me, and they often seek me out as a friend. Even with a big age gap, I rarely feel tension in fact, those friendships usually feel more natural, easy, and balanced.
I sometimes wonder, though:
- Am I doing something “wrong” by not forcing myself to bond more with people my own age, even if I don’t feel the same connection?
- Is this just part of being an “old soul” that some people won’t find peers fulfilling until they’re older?
- Do friendships with people my age eventually catch up as they gain life experience, or is it normal to keep leaning on friendships with older men?
- For the older guys here: do you enjoy having younger friends, and does it work out long-term, or do the differences eventually show?
I’m genuinely curious what others have experienced. Part of me feels I should accept myself as I am and embrace the connections that naturally feel right. But another part of me wonders if I’m missing something by not pushing harder to connect with my own age group.
Would love to hear your perspectives.