Went on a first date over the weekend. We matched on a dating app, and even though she lives well over an hour away. There's not much to do around where she lives (very rural, just a few restaurants), but I went up her way to meet for drinks and apps. It went really well, she was beautiful, great conversation; pretty much everything I'd hope she'd be.
I asked her on a second date. Normally, I would go up their way again, but I was having a hard time finding anything fun to do in her area. I live in a very bustling town with lots to walk around and do, and even though she doesn't seem like the type of girl to go to a guy's house on a second date, especially a guy that she met on an app and has only spent a couple hours with, I decided to shoot my shot.
I told her about this great place by my house with live music, great food, and a really chill vibe. I told her the weather's going to be nice, and asked if she'd be into coming over and walking to this place and having a fun night in my town. In that same message I was direct and I told her that I know many guys would have certain "hookup" expectations or ulterior motives, and I just wanted her to know that I'm not one of them, and that's not where my head is at with this invitation. I wanted her to be comfortable knowing that I'm not that guy.
I expected her to say something like, sounds awesome, maybe we can keep that idea in our back pocket for a future date, etc.. To my surprise, she replied saying that she loves live music, and that she would love to do that. She also asked if I'd like her to stay over.
I truly believe that it wouldn't have gone this way if I just invited her over and to this bar. She just doesn't seem like that type.
Here's to being direct in the dating world!