How do I fix my dating life at 33?

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1. Go to the gym my friend, gain some confidence, pickup a hobby, and you’ll find someone

2. You need to take care of your skin, physical health and mental as well. I’ve dated a man 5’3 before and I’m 5’2 myself. The height is a preference for some women but not all of us. As long as you come across respectful women will reply back to you. We all die alone in the end and whatever you do make sure any partner you have is an addition to your life and not the center of your life. Best of luck to you.

3. It’s probably not your looks.

   It’s probably more personality & lack of confidence. Lots of women are hot for Danny DeVito, & he’s no looker. But he carries himself with confidence & respects people.

   Also, he’s funny.

   Same is true of lots of famous men who aren’t great looking.

   Unfortunately, your current status has you feeling less confident, likely. So as much as I hate to say it, going somewhere with legalized prostitution might be your best bet.

   Another big thing that can help is being left wing. Not faking it, but actually believing it. If you can’t do that, then you are cutting yourself off from a large number of potential partners.

   You say you don’t look good, but why do you say that? Because good clothes & a good haircut & a fit body csn make up for a lot of other flaws.

4. The only thing you can do is to improve your looks at the maximum and below your standards

5. I would say there are still things you can do. First of all, work out to make yourself physically attractive at the very least. Secondly, invest in your style and fashion. Make sure you always wear nice clothes. Thoroughly, believe it or not, And whether people admit it or not, your financial situation does matter. Do you make good money? If so, that will go along way and helping you. I know it’s difficult, but when the right person comes along both of you will know it and it will work out. Maybe there are shorter girls who wouldn’t mind your height. Or taller girls Who don’t care about height as well. You just need to put yourself out there and control the factors that you can control. If you only focus on things that are out of your control, you will never find happiness in anything.

6. Search out little people to date. To them you will be a giant. Women who are 5’3″ are looking for 6′ guys these days.

7. Hey man, first off, don’t beat yourself up. Being 33 and single isn’t a death sentence, it just means you haven’t found the right connection yet. Looks and height are factors, sure, but confidence, personality, and how you carry yourself matter far more than you think. Start small: put yourself in social situations, try new hobbies, meet new people, and focus on being the best version of yourself. Real attraction comes from presence and confidence, not a checklist. You’ve got time, it’s about the effort and mindset, not age.

8. By traveling.

   Edit: Let me explain. I’m not that much taller than you but in the US I’m typically the shortest male in the room. It’s never bothered me. ‘Swag’ helps.

   Yet, I learned some countries that I travel to….I can often be equal or taller than and I’m 5’8. Yet, when I look around there’s plenty of people your height with beautiful attractive women.

   Culturally some areas don’t care as much. Try Indonesia, Vietnam, Philippines, or Peru.

   If you say “I don’t have money to travel just to find someone to date” then I’d tell you “Get your money up” because wealth simply opens more options.

9. You have massive physical disadvantages, it is what it is. But the reason you haven’t had sex is coz you are letting your physical disadvantages get in the way of you doing something about it. Let me tell you a secret though: lots of men aren’t confident nowadays to approach and talk to women directly; they hide behind dating apps and the swipe culture. If you just started doing real world activities which put you in front of women, trust me when I say something is gonna stick. But start small, the process of transformation. Like saying hello to 3 strangers a day…it doesn’t have to be all women… When you do this you are rewiring your mindset gradually, and then take on bigger challenges. Before you know it, you are soon having late night conversations with the love of your life…like next year Christmas. Goodluck

10. What do you want?

11. Take care of yourself. Work out and gain confidence. I’ll give you my life experience as a example;

    I am 48, cancer survivor. I lost my voice box at age 27 to laryngeal cancer and have a stoma on my neck for the rest of my life.
    I let myself go for the first 10 years or so post surgery. Felt inadequate, deformed and unlovable. At one point I decided I wanted to take control of my life again and started to work out, eat healthier take better care of myself. It was a lot of work but it dug me out of a very dark place.

    When I started feeling better about myself I accepted the “new me” as I am and started rebuilding my confidence. Started to approach the opposite sex more and ultimately came to the realization that the worst that can happen is they say no, in the words of Wayne Gretzky “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”

    Here I am now happily dating an amazing person who actually confessed that my confidence in approaching her the way I did is what got her interested in me.

    So yeah, take care of yourself and be confident, but learn the difference between confidence and arrogance 🙂

12. Start working out regularly

13. You’re not doomed, but you can’t just sit in the “I’m ugly and short” mindset either. Focus on what you can control — style, fitness, confidence, humor, how you carry yourself. Plenty of guys under 5’5″ date just fine because they own it. And you don’t need to land everyone, you just need to connect with the right someone. Start small, practice social skills, put yourself out there. It’s work, but it’s doable

14. Go to a few hot prostitutes and gain some confidence. Removes the mental block.