Just realized that 90 percent of my friends are married, getting into relationships, or in a long term relationship. Most of my friends have gotten plenty of girlfriends or relationships. While when I try and talk to women get empty messages, and false promises.
Likes it's so annoying especially when I hear one of my friends who recently broke up just got into another relationship while can't even get a single date.
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This may not be great to hear but… you may not be very attractive, charming, or successful. Reassess yourself and consider how you present yourself, how you talk, and what you offer to other people. Fix whatever is lacking.
Serious question: How old are you?
From reading all of your different posts on this subreddit, I’m getting that while you’ve made some improvements, you are just getting up the starting line where the starting gun has already went off and others are already running the race. Like things that are new to you are things that people who also have dating problems have been at for years.
You just recently said you got your driver’s license and taken that as a big improvement, which in a way it is. But a lot of us have had that for far far longer.
You also have said you’ve lost 30lbs, which is good. Keep working on it. But I’m guessing 30lbs for you is not as much of what your current weight actually is. 30lbs for someone like me that is around the 200 lbs will go a lot farther in improving looks compared to someone that is closer to 300lbs mark. It may take another 30 or 50 until it does give you reasonable improvement in your situation.
It could be easily how you carry yourself around women and that would be where you could make the most improvement for you. Obviously we don’t know what you are IRL so that may be your friends giving feedback on that. But based on the number of your posts on Reddit, I wonder if you give off desperate vibes. That is killer when trying to date. It might be you need to work on developing that IDGAF aura when trying to date.
Sometimes luck. The more we try to control things the more out control it can actually be.
Sometimes you have to realize people settle. If you are an idealist or very romantic Disneyesque viewpoint it may take longer.
More opportunities can make you luckier. Try some mantras and write down why you are grateful each day X 3z. Let the universe help you. Make your intentions known. The rest of might be good listeners.
Simply just experience, I guess. You do something long enough and often enough it becomes second-nature. Keep at it!