I've never been in a relationship with anyone before. It has never really bothered me much. Highschool teen romances never where much intrest to me. It seemed shallow form my perspective most times. I wanted to start dating in college and I went on a few dates but realized I had a lot of issues. I was also lost in life. I didn't know what I wanted to do after highschool and it took me some time to figure out. I needed to work on myself and spent about two years doing that. I found a career I wanted to do. I went back to school and am about to graduate next semester. My mental health had also been really bad most of my life. To the point that I consider ending it all at times.

After therapy and A LOT of work I am finally at a point in life where I feel okay. I have a healthy relationship with myself and others. Once I graduate I think I am finally ready to start looking for my person. However I do feel insecure about the fact I've never dated anyone before. It makes me feel like a mark against me. Like I am worried a potential partner will be put off by it. I also haven't had sex before so I am worried that women will think something is wrong with me.


3 comments

  1. no one will think anything is wrong with you. Everyone has their own journey, and the right partner for you will understand and accept you for who you are.

  2. I’m 25 and same. People will say it’s normal and “the right person will like you for who you are” but tbh that’s a bit misleading.

    Never dating before your mid 20s is statistically not normal, but it’s not like a crippling disability it’s just an obstacle to overcome. People in our situation need to not prioritise the dating or dwell on our lack of experience. We need to just learn to enjoy other aspects of life first while looking for a partner as a sorta side quest. Then people are less likely to be weirded out by red flags like desperation or obsessing.

    At least that’s what i tell myself lmao

  3. I mean I’m 22 and I’ve never been in a relationship or anything myself, I doubt women will think something is wrong with you. I think it’s really great that you took a break and put your mental first, many people usually skip that step and just jump into relationships. You don’t seem to have any issues with getting dates but now that you’re in a better place, I’m sure things will be smoother from here on out for you.

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