39 y/o female here. I'm wondering how other people get through moments of seeing siblings/friends have children, when its something you also desire but just aren't there yet b/c of being single or too early in a relationship.
I only met my partner 1.5 year ago and he's still unsure about kids so its a big question mark (and I had been in the dating world for 12 years mostly single before that. Lots of bad luck and dating trauma so I'm so grateful I met him. With the exception of his uncertainty w/ kids he's been the most aligned relationship ever) which at some point, maybe next year at latest, I need a more certain answer on so I can decide what to do. I'm 90% sure I want children.
I feel a lot of sadness/grief watching so many people in my world have children while I'm still in the dating phase and especially at a "late" age. It's lonely too, since my friends are all either partnered for years and years or casually dating.
On top of the pressure of the biological clock, it feels so bad/sad to have never been celebrated since I I haven't hit society's milestones like engagement, wedding, pregnancy. I've gone through really hard moments alone, as many people have who have been single have had to b/c we don't have a choice, but we're always left in the dark. I'm going to celebrate 5 years of my business soon by just taking myself out to dinner. It just sucks to feel so un-celebrated on top of the pain of watching almost everyone in my world have children.
How do other people deal?