Hello everyone! I’m a married female (25) and my husband is a m (29). We have one son (3) and have been married 6+ years.
TLDR: My husband and I have shifting priorities and I do not know how to handle it.
Recently, we moved back to my home state in order to be near family while raising our son. We both had very good jobs in a different state but it wasn’t the best environment for us. We made a lot of money but I didn’t have a degree and wanted to get it done and experience college. We had both finished our enlistments in the military and were adjusting to our lives after so I just took a high paying job as did he. However, we felt monotonous. We never spent time with our child.
Moving to a new state has given us more time with our child as well as time with family. My husband got a job (a nice paying job six figures) but I have decided to go to college using my GI bill. I decided I wanted to study mechanical engineering as it was close to what I was doing before while in the other state. However, after starting school I’ve quickly realized I hate it. It’s never been something I’m passionate about. I hate chemistry and math has never been my favorite. I prefer everything else and do well in everything else. What I absolutely love is psychology.
I decided to look at the idea of business while also getting a dual degree in early education. I would like to eventually teach one of the earlier grades or open up my own daycare. I love my child and I’ve learned I love the happiness and laughter other children bring. I also think I would be passionate about learning the psychology of young children in an early education degree plan. I talked with my husband about this and he almost immediately shot my idea down. Saying it was dumb and wouldn’t make money. Saying things like I’ve always made the same or more than him, I should find something more stable and lucrative, and I should work for the money regardless if I like it or not. He said he didn’t marry for a traditional wife but for one that makes money. Touching on the subject of traditional marriages he believes I should be the one to clean and cook primarily still. I think our priorities are shifting and I’m just having a hard time with it. My priorities are family and time spent with them and the memories we’re making. My husband’s is money. I don’t really know what to do or how to approach this. I want more children and to do something I want to do but I feel like I’m being cornered into doing something that I’ll hate but will make a lot of money and work crazy hours in order to keep my husband around. I’m just sad and lost.