I (35F) am dating a guy (33M) that I met at work a few years back. We are freelancers that only worked together on one project. We've been on and off for a few years now but all in all he has always been a perfect gentleman. He had some growing up to do in the time we've been off. I've always felt like I was ready for something more serious and longterm and he has not been but has always been polite, thoughtful and romantic. Fast forward to a recent date and I mentioned an upcoming wedding of a friend of mines and asked him if he'd like to be my plus 1 in the future. He immediately and very flatly said "no". I jokingly responded with "not that you have a choice." He said "do you really have that many people who are getting married coming up?" I said maybe. In my friendship circle (whom he's met) 5 of my closest friends are married. So the likelihood of more weddings is very high. Anyways, after that he said he thought about it some more and would be my plus one as it's not as a big a deal as he thought. His exact words. My thing is should I be concerned about his fear of commitment? We aren't official yet and we've been dating for a bit now. Granted we were off for months and have been on for a month now. I am bothered that he's not sure about me but also it may not even be about me. It may be a him issue. I don't want to convince someone to commit as i witnessed a friend do that and she had a pretty terrible break up that's she's still trying to get over over 2 years later. His parents have been married for over 3o years. He says they aren't as happy as they could be and stay out of obligation. Maybe that's why he's not sure about marriage. I grew up in a single parent home and saw my mother go through many failed relationships but I still believe in marriage. Should I run for the hills now? I wish I had a crystal ball. I know he's the kind of guy that needs time to come around to the idea of things sometimes but I worry about him doing things just for me. He has said he's happiest when I'm happy and that worries me. Is that sustainable?