I matched with a guy on Hinge. He seemed really sweet. Unfortunately that week, a family member got really ill and my work load was too much. I communicated that I felt overwhelmed at my job but that I would get back to him after. I sent short messages during this week (maybe once every 2-3day) and thanked him for his patience. I didn’t have it in me to engage deeper in the conversation.
He responded with long messages with a lot of 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 and 😍😍😍😍😍 ”You seem sooo kind!” ”You seem so amazing!!”. I’m going to be honest that it turned me of a little because I felt like he was creating a connection that wasn’t there yet. It felt fake…. But I was still interested and thought maybe he is a little insecure or it’s his way of flirting (and to each their own).
So after my busy week was over we texted and I felt he was now the one to respond more slowly (but still texted much and with lots of emojies). After 4-5 days of texting that week I asked him out on a date. He responded after 6 days of radio silence that he had met someone else during this time and that it’s going really good and that he can’t date two persons at the same time. He asked if we can keep in touch and if I can met him as a friend at some point since I’m ”amazing 🤗🤗”.
I just felt so tired and deleted the match…. After that texting I felt he at least could meet me once. I regret not texting ”thank you for letting me know”.
Should I bet myself up for not asking him out on a date earlier than 1,5 week and for not engaging more in texting during the first week I felt overwhelmed. Do you think the outcome would have been different then? Could I have changed the outcome?
At the same time I feel like life sometimes get in the way and you can’t date as if everyday with a match is critical and you have to rush. I don’t know what is right or wrong at this moment….