I’ve been talking to a girl (same age as me, 26) for about three weeks.
At first we really clicked — lots of talking and gaming together. She started making spicy jokes, and I matched her energy. Things escalated fast: flirty chats, then nudes going back and forth. I only sent mine because I didn’t want her to feel like she was being used.
Then, after about three days of that, she suddenly got distant. Less friendly, colder. I figured maybe she just wanted validation to get over her ex. We barely talked for a few days… and then out of nowhere, she was back, even more flirty than before.
It threw me off. She acted like she wanted something serious, then pulled back again. My friend said she was probably just looking for quick fun and giving mixed signals.
Eventually, I gave her space. Then while we were talking about our old friend group, she made a harsh comment. I asked if she meant me too, and she replied, “Who said you were normal.” I asked her to elaborate, and she didn’t. So I cut ties with her.
For context, I’m not a “quick fun” guy and never have been. I want deep, intimate relationships. My last one ended in cheating about five years ago, and I’ve been out of the dating world since. I never flirted or pursued anyone because I didn’t feel healed until now.
Honestly, is dating just like this nowadays?
Thanks for reading my rant.