I have been in the dating pool for a while now, in person and online, and what I have been noticing a lot lately is how disappointed people are with the online dating sites. And to be honest, I'm one of them too. It seems like the apps have become this swipe left, right meet market where all connections seem superficial. And don't even get me started on the amount of bots and fakes there. I know they are businesses, and that's how they profit, by keeping us hooked on swiping, but it's getting out of hand.
So naturally, when one is dissatisfied with something, they go look for other options, and what I have come to is the old way of doing things. I came across something called the Delphi effect because back in the days on the ancient social media platform called Delphi, apparently, many couples met and formed many successful relationships.
Wes, the guy who found Delphi, has stated so himself: "In 1981, I launched the world’s first online encyclopedia, which soon became the Delphi social network. Before we sold the business to Rupert Murdoch’s News America Corp. a decade later, hundreds or thousands of couples had met on Delphi. Many of them later married."
And it makes sense. When people connect with values, ideas, humour and conversation rather than by promoting their “features,” a resulting relationship is simply better in all respects.
So I thought, if we all dissatisfied online daters decided to take a step back and start using that old way of meeting and connecting, could that improve the online dating world for us? I mean, wouldn't it be worth it if we just tried at least?