Title says it all- we have been knowing each other for 2 years – we haven’t had sex but just small other stuff like bjs for him n him touching me down there…
Although he won’t admit we r fwb i know thats what it is because he freaks out if i playfully touch his phone lol… he only won’t admit we are fwb cause he doesn’t want me to think i can date other guys.
Whenever i have gotten mad at him n cut things off with him before he just tries to win me back and it works.
Anyway ya ive caught real feelings for him now… so now what 😭 anyone else been through this?
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Yes, it’s not going to get better, if you can’t just keep it casual you’re going to get hurt unless you cut things off and stay no contact.
You have to be honest with him and if feelings are not reciprocated you gotta cut things off. If you don’t the only person you are hurting is yourself from that point forward. But it seems like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. So be wary
This is definitely a first… Haven’t had sex in 2 years? Just blow jobs, FOR 2 YEARS??? That’s something way different!
He won’t admit it because he doesn’t want you to think you can date other guys? What does that even mean?! This is way messed up on both parts! Good luck
Work on your self esteem and realize you deserve better.
Bjs and fingering are sex. Ask Bill Clinton if you need clarification about what sex is.
How bout straight forward communication with him .. tell him like it is, and he’s not with you on it, well then Id suggest its best for you to part ways … best wishes to you ☮️
It’s only a problem if he doesn’t want more. Maybe if you tell him you’re going to cut things off as a rational decision rather than out of anger you can see how he will react.
That sounds really tough, and I get why you’re feeling stuck. From what you’ve described, it sounds like he wants the benefits of being close to you without the responsibility or honesty of defining the relationship. The fact that he hides behind the ‘not fwb’ label but also doesn’t want you seeing other people is a red flag, it shows he’s controlling the situation for his benefit. If you’ve caught feelings, the best next step is to be honest with yourself first and then with him. Let him know what you want. If he can’t meet you there, as hard as it is, walking away might protect your heart in the long run. You deserve clarity and respect, not confusion. Just my opinion xD
you’re not alone diva i’m in the trenches too 🫡