I’m in a confusing spot. I was with my boyfriend for about 1.5 years until he moved out of state for work. We tried long distance, but now things are distant and tense. I don’t really feel upset anymore, just disconnected. We are on a break, it is my first relationship and I am new to everything.
Meanwhile, one of my guy friends has been super supportive lately. He leans in, touches more, does thoughtful stuff (like late‑night ice cream runs), jokes around with me, even took my scrunchie once (as a joke). I made a “blushing” joke when he asked if I needed anything, and later worried I might’ve made him uncomfortable.
I’m not sure if:
I’m just craving attention and this is all emotional comfort
Or if he actually likes me romantically
Also wondering if I should text him asking if I made things awkward with the joke.
TL;DR: My long distance relationship feels dead/distant. My friend is showing more signs of closeness. I’m confused about what I want, what he feels, and what to do.
4 comments
decide if your long-distance is worth saving. If not, end it cleanly. Only then see where things with your friend could go. Clarity first, then feelings.
here is your advice: first, identify what you want (only you konw that), then go from there….its that easy…you get to choose what kind of person you are in life and what happens to you. You have action in all your choices..you gotta know what you want though
you can be a good person and inform you current partner of what you want, when you know. You can be a bad partner and not tell them as pursue other avenues ’til you know what you want’….it is all up to you. You are already taking action in what you want and doing what you want..Now it is up to you to decide how you really are inside. Deep inside, what kind of person you are. You make all your own choices, you realize the effect others around you..so what kind of person do you want to be?
Your “close guy friend” is already in the spectrum of infidelity. Your cleanest-conscience option is to end the relationship very soon, citing distance relationships being too difficult, and what you do after that is your business.
If, on the other hand, you want to stay in your long-distance relationship, you need to seriously distance yourself from your “close guy friend,” because it’s already inappropriate to the relationship.
Long distance relationships aren’t real. That is your answer.