Support and reassurance needed.
I was messaging with this one guy on the app, and idk if it’s cause I had caffeine or was in that kind of mood, but I sent like stream of consciousness back-to-back texts in response to his messages and he….stopped replying. I mean if hasn’t been 24 hours but still. I sent 6 one-sentence ones in response to his 3. The last one was overkill and I wish I hadn’t sent it.
I guess I kind of “tried too hard” because I ironically was worried I wasn’t being nice enough/responsive enough. (A common fear.) No need to tell me I need to address that/work on that fear, I’m in therapy, I’m working on everything under the sun! I know! I have social anxiety and struggle with my self esteem but I’m doing everything I can to work on those things.
I didn’t say anything weird per se, but I realize now it probably came off too intense and hyperactive, but idk, when I’m focused, I kinda just go all-in on the vibes. I wasn’t feeling desperate or anything, I just wanted to show effort. Idk sometimes I lock into an idea and get tunnel vision that way. This could be with anything, like work, not just dating. Like “oh I’m not being hardworking enough, I need to try harder.” Or “I have all these tasks I can knock off my list, let me go all in.” Idk why I have this habit, I just do.
I did something similar with another guy once and he also stopped responding.
I didn’t notice it was a bad thing at the time though, which is my entire issue — I just can’t see my own social blunders until it’s too late. Some part of me thought it would be a good thing because he’d read it as being engaged and enthusiastic. And on a separate note, I’m not always in a “chill” mood that would allow me reply in a relaxed way.
Idk man I’m trying my best. I’m just worried I’ll be single forever because of things like this. Send help 😫