So I'm a guy (early 20s) and i have some worries. such as would it be pointless for me to use them. and would my odds even be worth their usage.
I have been out of the game for about a year or so by choice as my previous relationship was not great and an experience with a long term stalker really pushed me out of the wanting to even be in a relationship and it gave me a lot of anxiety so i just dipped from having a love life.
I've been made aware that guys odds on such apps are not what i would consider great. I'm only considering using them as my job , hobbies and friend circles aren't really putting me in a position to meet members of the opposite sex.
Honestly i don't even like the idea of using them but they sound incredibly convenient and remove a lot of the trial and error in pursuing a relationship.
I have approached women in person but of course i have been hit with the i have a boyfriend / I'm not looking for anything right now. which is perfectly fine. but that's what makes the apps enticing. and i have anxiety about the other person taking offense or escalating the situation or being made uncomfortable.
I'm not really afraid of rejection but i hate putting people on the spot or making them uncomfortable.
The people using them are actively looking for someone which removes some of the guess work and legwork on my end.
I'm aware that their are catfish and weirdos floating on the apps and that some are even using ai as a tool to manipulate people. I have no firsthand experience with it but have heard from others about it. and that a lot of accounts are totally fake
But if i were to use them which should i use? if at all. the convenience of them is what has me interested in them.
And how should i go about using them?