I (24F) bought my husband (27M) a concert ticket for his birthday and a second one so he could take a friend. We have been together for 6 years and married for 3. We do not have a lot of extra money right now, so $70 per ticket was a big deal for me. I used money from my small business to make it happen because I wanted him to have a special birthday.
Today he called me and said his friend bought better tickets that are closer to the stage, and that is what they will be using instead. The part that really stung is that they used the tickets I bought just to get into the venue, which means I could not even resell them or use them myself if I wanted to.
I am glad he is excited and will have a better view, but it honestly feels like my gift did not matter. I put thought, effort, and money into it, and it ended up feeling like it was tossed aside. This is not the first time I have felt like he does not think about how his actions might affect me, and I am tired of feeling dismissed.
My question: Does anyone else see why this situation might be hurtful? How do you decide if your feelings are valid in situations like this?