Gotta ask what’s your biggest nobody told me about this moment in your 30s? Haha
September 14, 2025
I think from the back pain to dental bills to realizing your friend circle can quietly disappear, the 30s are full of unexpected lessons. Am I wrong?
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Waking up at like 3:26 am to pee. I thought it was a random thing the first time. I had to google it like wtf is going on.
“Wait, I can actually make a living as a freelancer? I can make money without a boss? Holy shit!”
Probably not the jokey answer you’re looking for, but people inherently respect you more. No one says it out loud when you’re in your 20s but society respects you more in your 30s.
Seeing your siblings age. My little sister is a middle-aged woman.
Everyone’s life is different. I would say to take all these changes as check engine lights on an old dashboard. You can keep driving as is, or you can invest the time to have it checked and possibly implement a fix.
My 20s is when I lost all my friends. 30s is where a few bad habits came to a head. Now my early 40s are about shredding the fat figuratively and literally.
I would say to focus on your inner development like your life depends on it. With your subjective reality in order, the outside will fall into place.
The injuries that healed in your teens and 20s come back as pain
Nobody told me I could wake up tired after 8 hours of sleep…. Like what did I even dream about?? Taxes?? Hahaha
I went through a second puberty, and the hair grew in my ears and nose and my eyebrow hair started getting really long and wiry.
Ear hair. And it grows like 3x faster than all the other hair.
That I can wake up tired
I’m midway through my 30s with no aches or pains, but I am seeing my friendship group disappear. Everyone else just seems to have less time to dish out, leaving me to just find new ways to fill up my time.
That life finds a way to kick you in your teeth when you least expect it, but that almost anything is overcomeable. Unfortunately it doesn’t always get easier
Balls gonna start hanging lower
Nobody told me how little sex there is after kids.
I cant eat whatever i want anymore. Put on about 20kg in 7 years since turning 30.
I’m grumpy and resentful and as much as I try to deep dive into my psyche to resolve/understand it, I’m just a bitter person. Happy things that used to bring me joy just feel empty.
It’s easy to let yourself get fat and out of shape and blame it on “getting old”.
Don’t do that. I let myself go in my mid 30s and have been clawing my way back at age 40. I’ve still got a ways to go, but I feel like I’ve gone back in time 10 years as far as how my body feels.
Random pains, gone. Struggling to get up from the couch, not a problem. Mobility issues, solved. ED issues, gone, sex has never been better.
Don’t neglect your fitness. It’s much easier to hold onto it into old age than it try and regain it in your 40s and beyond.
You have to decide what to make for dinner. Every. Night.
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Waking up at like 3:26 am to pee. I thought it was a random thing the first time. I had to google it like wtf is going on.
“Wait, I can actually make a living as a freelancer? I can make money without a boss? Holy shit!”
Probably not the jokey answer you’re looking for, but people inherently respect you more. No one says it out loud when you’re in your 20s but society respects you more in your 30s.
Seeing your siblings age. My little sister is a middle-aged woman.
Everyone’s life is different. I would say to take all these changes as check engine lights on an old dashboard. You can keep driving as is, or you can invest the time to have it checked and possibly implement a fix.
My 20s is when I lost all my friends. 30s is where a few bad habits came to a head. Now my early 40s are about shredding the fat figuratively and literally.
I would say to focus on your inner development like your life depends on it. With your subjective reality in order, the outside will fall into place.
The injuries that healed in your teens and 20s come back as pain
Nobody told me I could wake up tired after 8 hours of sleep…. Like what did I even dream about?? Taxes?? Hahaha
I went through a second puberty, and the hair grew in my ears and nose and my eyebrow hair started getting really long and wiry.
Ear hair. And it grows like 3x faster than all the other hair.
That I can wake up tired
I’m midway through my 30s with no aches or pains, but I am seeing my friendship group disappear. Everyone else just seems to have less time to dish out, leaving me to just find new ways to fill up my time.
That life finds a way to kick you in your teeth when you least expect it, but that almost anything is overcomeable. Unfortunately it doesn’t always get easier
Balls gonna start hanging lower
Nobody told me how little sex there is after kids.
I cant eat whatever i want anymore. Put on about 20kg in 7 years since turning 30.
I’m grumpy and resentful and as much as I try to deep dive into my psyche to resolve/understand it, I’m just a bitter person. Happy things that used to bring me joy just feel empty.
It’s easy to let yourself get fat and out of shape and blame it on “getting old”.
Don’t do that. I let myself go in my mid 30s and have been clawing my way back at age 40. I’ve still got a ways to go, but I feel like I’ve gone back in time 10 years as far as how my body feels.
Random pains, gone. Struggling to get up from the couch, not a problem. Mobility issues, solved. ED issues, gone, sex has never been better.
Don’t neglect your fitness. It’s much easier to hold onto it into old age than it try and regain it in your 40s and beyond.
You have to decide what to make for dinner. Every. Night.