My (F22) boyfriend (M22) and I have been together for 6.5 years. We began dating at 15 years old and moved in together at 19 years old.
My boyfriend and I's relationship would be best described as a relationship of convince, resentment, and friendship. When we moved in together it was done out of convince because I was kicked out by my parents. I stayed with him this long out of convince, because we needed each other finically. I resent him because he has never sacrificed for us and has consistently left me to pickup the mess. I've always told him that he's a good friend but a bad partner. He can make me laugh but not be a partner when I need one.
I've been speaking with him about a lot of things lately. Specifically the fact that he never puts in the effort to change his behavior consistently. After some reflection he told me he came to a realization that he never fells his feelings. He's never actually sits with them and fells them, but rather shuts them out and never learns from them. Again I sat down and spoke with him last night about these feelings. He took sometime to reflect and after admitted that he is a selfish partner who's failed us. Recognizing that he hasn't been doing anything for our relationship to benefit us, but rather at his benefit.
So I think I know the right answer. I feel like I feel the right answer, but the circumstances are that I cannot break the lease. I love him and might be willing to fall in love with him again if he fixes this, but the resentment is growing. I've already told him that as of right now I don't see a future together.
any advice is appreciated…
TLDR; Trainwreck of a relationship but I'm stuck. I love him but it hurts.