I know alot of people say its a muscle that can be exercised or whatever, but no matter how hard I try I just can't seem to get flirting. I've watched videos online, I've read books, I've asked friends, I've been to therapy, and I still juts cannot understand it in the slightest.
Take a few weeks ago, when I moved into college. My family stopped at a DQ drive through because the chicken strip baskets are extremely underrated. This girl then asks us, "You guys moving to college?" and my parents say yeah. She then starts asking all kinds of questions like where we're moving, what' my major, when I'm graduating, etc. I answer all of them and then she smiles and says bye.
My parents start to talk to me about how that girl was flirting with me and that my new haricut was already doing wonders (I got a new haircut, it doesn't go beyond my shoulders now, 20M). I just thought however that was just her being a decent person and having a conversation, and me and my parents got into an argument on wether or not she was flirting.
Another example was this one gilr in my Japanese class I always sit next too. Sometimes I sit in the back by myself, and today she was next to the seat I usually sit in before I move up to the front. My friend is convidnvced this is her being interested and a "subtle way of flirting" because she never sits back there, and I called them crazy because, maybe idk, she just wanted to sit back there??
I dnn't know. It always seems like I misjudge or over/underjudge flirting, and my own flirting is usually very forward and over the top (which is probably not helping my lack of success lol). I have no interest in dating in the near future while I sort out my mental health and social skills and being overweight, but in the meaning can seomeone tell me what might be wrong with me? I've already been screened for being neuro spicy by a few specialists, and I do have adhd but no other nd conditions. On top of that i just feel like no matter what I do I just can't understand it in the slightest.
I don't know. I'm really confused lol.