Never thought this would happen since I’ve never been in a fight for this, but me (25M) and my GF (26F) were at a friend’s party on Sunday night and 3 drunk dudes were sexually harassing her and making her uncomfortable.
I confronted them and told them to stop, but they got super aggressive which led to them ganging up on me.
Feeling embarrassed right now since everything was blurry after I was knocked unconscious. Feels like my GF has been overly affectionate for the past few days while she usually isn’t the type to show affection and it just feels like she pities me.
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Sounds like she cares about you and she’s making sure you’re okay. Speak to her.
She probably feels bad this happened rather than pity per se, not many people would be able to handle a 1v3 unless they’re specially trained 💀
You stood up for her. No one is superman and even trained fighters can’t beat 3 people.
She thinks of you as her hero and you got hurt. Thats why she’s being affectionate. Try to re-frame your insecurity. Better yet, talk to her about what she thinks rather than getting all up in your head about what you think she thinks.
Dude, just talk to her. Tell her how you’re feeling, let her respond, work through it together. She’s your girlfriend. (Side note: you have nothing to be embarrassed about.)
She’s not giving you pity affection. She’s showing she appreciates you sticking up for her. Most of us say we hate violence but when someone stands up for me I am Gaga and make sure they know that I appreciate it. Most of us don’t want our partners to initiate a fight but sticking up for us is hot.
I got jumped in front of my girl once …. I found em later that week and got to the get back .
I got hit then they got hit that’s how it goes
We all lose fights nobody expects u to win a 1v3 don’t let it eat you
There’s no way she thinks of you as a wimp for losing a fight against 3 guys in her defense. If anything she’s more attracted to you cause you proved you will defend her.
If for some reason she is less attracted to you it’s time to move on.
I don’t really understand how a guy would feel after an event like that, but from a girl perspective, you did exactly what I would’ve like my boyfriend to do, if she’s a good girl she won’t be less attracted to you but more, you’re an amazing men don’t be ashamed you can’t do anything against 3 guys it’s normal
She does not pity you at all!!!!!! You asked two messed up guys to leave your girlfriend alone! You stood up for her and the two fuck nuts ganged up on you- an innocent person just doing what is right. She is appreciative!
If my boyfriend would do this for me i would want to marry him not joking . Even if he loses . You are brave OP
It was 3 versus 1. You tried to protect her but there was no way you could’ve overpowered them. If your GF pities you more than appreciating your intervention then you should rethink this relationship. But I don’t think she pities you. I think this is her appreciating you.
Buddy, you did the right thing by defending your girlfriend from those drunken assholes. She is very appreciative of you for doing that, so that’s why she’s super affectionate towards you since then, and she’s making sure that you’re okay. She’s the keeper. As a guy, your girlfriend is an example of a good, loyal woman I always want to have in the near future. Just let it go after what happened, and be happy that she’s always there for you.
Your girl is just gonna love you. Let it go and she’ll admire you even more.
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You stood up for her and she clearly cares about you. Let her love on you and just heal from this. ❤️
Nah dude mad respect she’s never going to forget that you stuck your neck out for her
If my man stood up for me like this, regardless of him getting beat up. I would be finding ways to lock him down cause that’s my ride or die now.
If my bf stood up and protected me like that, yeah they are getting more affection. They beat you unconscious because you were protecting her. If anything she feels guilty for getting you beat up. Putting yourself on the line like that is not a small token gesture. It shows how much you care about her and want to keep her safe.
I would personally be sooooo honored and turned on if my man stood up for me to three full grown men.
What you did was you tried to protect her, that’s all she’s clocking. Trust me.
You stood your ground against three blokes mate, even if you were hospitalised you’re still the only man involved in this situation. You win some, you lose some, but there’s no shame in losing a fight against three people, if anything she’s probably being more affectionate because you were prepared to take on those odds to protect her, good on you, sir
You defended her honor there’s nothing to be embarrassed about she’s showing you her appreciation
I don’t think it’s pity, it’s probably appreciation and guilt for lack of a better word? You should feel proud that you stood up for her. Also maybe get checked for a concussion
You’re a hero bro and she definitely appreciates it, not pity
You stood up for her, that shows her you’ll protect her. Her womanly instinct is to comfort her protector
Just sit with her.
Think about how you feel, then say the things you are thinking, as clearly and honestly and kindly as you can.
Ask her to do the same.
Repeat.
Mike Tyson has been knocked out. Demetrius Johnson has been knocked out. Max Holloway has been knocked out. Alex Pereira has been knocked out. You won’t win every fight you take. But you stood up and gave it a shot anyways. Most people wouldn’t have done that but you stood up for her knowing the odds anyways. That takes guts. It’s for sure not fun, but in this case you did the right thing, it just doesn’t feel like it at the moment.
She probably adores you for stepping up and protecting her. You shouldn’t be embarrassed. You should be more than proud that you tried to protect the woman in your life.
i think she cares about you. She may also feel bad and maybe shes trying to make it up to you. But I can assure you she doesn’t see you as a whimp and shes probably hella grateful that you stuck up for her! And you absolutely did, thats what really matters! Dont feel embarrassed, You have nothing to be ashamed of! Fighting off three guys is almost impossible without years of special training, id wager
Dude, as a woman I can tell you, women do not see this stuff the way men do. Stop assuming she thinks less of you. Have a conversation with her and pay attention to her actions. It’s possible she might feel bad for you, but it’s because she knows your ego took a hit. That’s all. Doesn’t make her love or respect you less. All this macho crap is dumb.
Getting jumped by three dudes isn’t a failure. Losing that fight is the outcome 99% of the time.
You gf probably feels sorry and somewhat responsible even though she shouldn’t.
I hope that you don’t spend any more time with those “friends” and that the party host writes them off as well.
You stood up for your woman.
That’s commendable.
She’s affectionate because she appreciates that you risked yourself to help her. She’s grateful to have you. That’s it. Do not feel bad at all. This isn’t a superhero movie. You’re a normal human who got attacked by THREE MEN.
She appreciates you stepping up to help here. And she risking your life for her. That’s not pity that’s admiration and appreciation. She wants to look after you because you looked after her. That’s the nurturing in her coming out.
I think your overthinking it.
it was a 3 on 1 fight, 99.9% of people would lose that fight.
Maybe therapy might help or seeing a psychiatrist.
Your a good man.
Press charges!
Dude, you should be proud of yourself. It takes a lot of courage to stand up against odds like that. Many wouldn’t be able to. You protected your woman, and she is being extra affectionate because you showed you are a protector. Would you be able to look at yourself in the mirror if you didn’t step in? In times like this, your label as a man was tested; you showed you are one, even if you got a beating.
Have a conversation with your girlfriend about it. Get vulnerable with her. It will strengthen your relationship. If she makes it an issue, then you know she is not the one, and it’s time to move on.