I (29M) have joined multiple dating apps and dont seem to be having any joy with getting matches and/or conversations. ive tried to upload different types of pictures and my bio's and prompts are honest and open.

I dont know what else i can do to impove my chances of dating


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  2. Someone who is well rounded have pictures of you alone, then two with friends or family and a few with what you love doing. Pictures are louder than words.

  3. I can’t take a good picture to save my life. I’ve been trying to take more pictures when out at events and they’re literally unusable. I know my pictures are a huge factor for why I’m not getting likes, but I can’t seem to fix them

  4. Pictures: A picture with an animal (because I love animals), a picture of you with other people (so I know you have friends), a picture of you doing a hobby and a picture of you with a clear straightforward angle of your face

    Bio: jokes, good taste in media (movie and movies), cleverness, and creativity

  5. I like to see what men can offer. A lot of men just write what they want and it’s usually all the same.

  6. I’m looking for shared goals in terms of kids, relationship commitment, and shared values religiously and politically. Of course it’s also important that I find the person attractive, and that he seems like he’s interesting, as in that he seems to have a life, and disabled to hold a conversation.

    If under likes you type single word answers like “food” or “coffee”, I’m it’s not likely to be impressed.

  7. Show your personality. Hobbies, things you’re into. What you’re looking for, stuff like that. I prefer someone who’s straight forward about what he wants

  8. Having at LEAST one really good photo makes all the world of a difference! Work with a local photographer to get just one good professional photo (a casual, natural headshot of some kind).

    I’ve met a lot of guys online who were way more handsome in person, and I helped them get better photos when it wasn’t going to work out between the two of us for various reasons. They found serious girlfriends shortly afterwards lol.

  9. Pictures that show a realistic representation of you. Take off the sunglasses and hats (unless that thing is literally glued to your head 24/7) and have a friend take a photo of you smiling in decent light. Don’t have pictures with just one other girl in the photo unless it’s super obvious that’s your sister (otherwise we assume it’s an ex and that’s not a good look). Do NOT post a group photo! Learn how to crop a photo on your phone. 9/10 the guy I’m initially attracted to in the group photo is not the owner of the dating profile… And if 4/5 of your photos are group pictures and I have to play detective to figure out which one you are, I typically pass.

    For your profile, showcase the positives unless they’re dealbreakers. I understand it can be frustrating in the dating pool but it’s a huge turn off when you can see that frustration or desperation on the profile itself (“Trying Hinge and if this doesn’t work I’ll never do another app again”). Actually use the prompts. The “.” in them is just so low effort.

  10. Ooh I’ll field this one. They look for any reason possible to swipe left. From holding fish to having a photo with a female friend down to photos in gym, at top of mountains and disapproving of wallpaper in the background.

    I’ve watched them do it man. I’ll never OLD again. It’s brutal, like a dating holocaust

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