now we are separated because of my studies, but I am a guy with a very high libido and constantly want sexual attention from her (like photos, voice or flirting), and she has some problems with this in the sense that, in her words, "she finds this topic a little unpleasant"(and after she saying it my self-esteem drops under the floor)… we are ideal for each other and have no problems except this, we love each other very much and all that, but this is brewing into a big problem, as it seems to me. when she has ovulation or just a random playful mood and we exchange all sorts of things, she can be vulgar and even very, it is obvious that she likes it and also from this a question arose: she loves to be forced, humiliated and so on, really very much, and she directly says this when she is excited. And I do not understand what to do? After all, 3-4 years of study with constant problems in sexual satisfaction is not a good thing, but even if you think about when we will meet? Will this fetish for coercion work? (she literally said "I will refuse and you will take me").
Also, her reluctance is not a selfish denial, she regrets it but does not directly say whether she wants to try to change (possibly because she simply does not believe, this is her first relationship and a direct clash with sexuality), she says “I do not want you to suffer and be uncomfortable” and I tell her this in response, but I do not know what compromise can be found so that both are happy at a distance? I can not wait a month for ovulation and this is somehow wrong..
TL;DR; : What to do if my gf right now finds sex topics outside of her “good mood” unpleasant and heres me with constant need of it?