Im 26F now and I thought by now I would have met my person but till this day nothing. My last relationship of 3 years ended a year ago and I haven’t met anyone since. At this point I’m wondering if trying to find love is even worth the time now. Most guys now in days don’t know what they want or want someone to be their placeholder till they find someone better :/


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  1. It took me most of my life to find someone like my gf. So yes. I never been happier. And getting my heart broken all those times are worth it now because then I wouldn’t have met her. But I agree. Dating is like ten times more shittier now. But just have to not give up. That’s really it. 

  2. it is hard depending on your personality. I have met people who were like girlfriend after girlfriend (she was lesbian). And for me it has always been somewhat like a year or two although now I’m being sabotaged so there’s that…

    there’s something horribly depressing about being sabotaged – it’s like rowing in a river backwards? like the flow doesn’t let you move to the destination. You know you can do it, but you don’t move whatsoever.

  3. Like most of us. Late 20s we kinda land into this confusion and end up giving up on Love tbh.

    I agree being with a person who loves u is important but after this age it’s just void it’s lonely out there

    I think for the majority of us who are looking for genuine things we tend to land on this lonely path be it Men or women. But yeah it’s a part of life hope u find someone genuine and full of love for u

  4. Easier said than done but try to put pressure on it and focus on yourself and being comfortable being single. I felt like that when I was 26 and it led me into a 5 year relationship that had good times but definitely wasn’t the one. Figured out a lot more in my early 30s and found an amazing match. I feel like most people don’t truly know who they are and what they want (and need) until 28-32.

  5. Finding your soulmate is almost impossible. So many boxes have to check out and great many of them like time and circumstances are out of your control.
    Ask yourself a question – if you find your soulmate, will your soulmate find a soulmate in you?
    I think it’s a much more reasonable course to become soulmates for each other provided you are both willing to work, compromise and adapt. Adapt, but never buckle.

  6. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. Turns out he didn’t feel the same. So now I’m focusing on my finances, working out, joining community groups and just generally doing things I love. Being in that head space of “I’m single but I’m still very happy” makes you very attractive. But you do have to go out there and meet new people. It’s hard when you feel lonely, but there are so many cool people in the world. You’ll be okay and you’ll find someone 💗

    Edit: I’m 31!

  8. Tell me about it. Im 27 and have NEVER found anyone romantically interesting or vice versa. It is very hard. But good things come to those who wait right? People who end up in bad relationships is because they choose someone out of desperation instead of allignment.

  9. Yes, your soulmate could be living in Zimbabwe. There are 8 billion people how can the right person just magically live near you?

    You just have to take what you can get 🤣

  10. It would be alot easier if hookup culture wasnt a thing. Sorry not sorry. Also if people weren’t so picky in general. One little thing.. boom they push you away. It isnt reality. There is no “perfect”. Im saying this as a 42f. Love is compromise. Love is patient and keeps no records of little mistakes or flaws. In fact, it embraces differences. It finds adventure in the unfamiliar. Its playful and light hearted.

  11. **It is hard because you are not Thirsty(parched)/desperate.** Thirsty people will drink from a puddle/sewer/toilet bowl.

    Just find someone who have the same values/core beliefs.

    We tend to focus on surface level things and look for the POTENTIAL. But having the same values/core values is enough.

    Modern dating culture often encourages focusing on appearances, status, or short-term excitement. THE ENDLESS CHOICES also make people “I could get a better looking guy/girl, Richer guy/girl”.

    **It is hard because people ACT DIFFERENT at the start and when they got you they suddenly show their TRUE SELVES. so we become more CHOOSY over time.**

    Loneliness can be healed with growth, friendships, and self-discovery but a **toxic partner drains your peace, self-worth, and future.**

    **EDIT:** Most People are in relationship right now because they are Afraid to be ALONE. They rather be in a TOXIC relationship than be alone.

    **Harder to date if you yourself is financially stable. Because you will never settle for less.** (nothing wrong with it you just need to go out more)

  12. I’m 25 and I’ve been in the worst imaginable relationships since I was 17. All long term. It is so hard to find a relationship worthy of you. You give that person everything, a lot of people are not worthy of that. You’re a year older than me.. we are still so young, even if it doesn’t feel that way. I promise we are better alone than with the wrong person. We all want love. I’m learning to love myself more than anything and I’d suggest you do the same.

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