At parties, social gatherings etc. the conversation frequently drifts to where we both live. A lot of the time friend of friends that I've gotten chatty with will say something like 'well next time you're in [Hometown], let me know'.
My question is: do people mean it when they say stuff like this, or are they just being polite?
Obviously I'm not going to just turn up at someone's doorstep, but if I happened to be close by, is it socially acceptable to say something like 'Hey me and a friend are going to be at [hometown], do you want to get a drink or something'? Assume it's a friend of a friend I've only met once or twice but did get on reasonably well with.
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Pretty much. This would also be good practice for future dating.
If there was a bar or restaurant they mentioned you could suggest trying it together. Or look for nearby activities or places that look interesting and suggest those places.
Be a little flexible with timing, but avoid going completely out of your way to adjust your reason for being there to their availability. For the most part, put yourself first and adjust if they are making time or an effort to meet up.
The last thing is that if you’re not hitting it off that is ok. It happens and we do need to learn how to gracefully let these opportunities pass.
If they’ve given you contact information, then sure.
But if not, then it’s pretty meaningless because how will you CONTACT THEM?