for context i am 24F and a lesbian. I met my friend almost 2 years ago, and have been dating my partner for about the same time. they’re both very important people in my life, and i love them very much. however, my friend has never liked my partner. this has made me feel really anxious and uncomfortable. ever since the first night they met, she didn’t seem to like them. I’m not 100% sure why either. My partner didn’t come from a wealthy background, and didn’t go to university. my friend comes from very wealthy parents, and has a masters. she always says that she values people that have gone to school and isn’t friends with people who haven’t. i think she looks down upon people in this way, and it does bother me. my parents never went to university, and they ended up doing extremely well, having 2 businesses and retiring early. because of this, i don’t see school as a deal breaker. my partner works a few odd jobs, but has never had any debt, and has savings. my friend also comments on their job, saying that they wouldn’t date someone who didn’t have a career. I try not to bring up when my partner and I are going through something, because my friend will just automatically tell me to break it off. it’s really disheartening to hear that, because sometimes I just want her to listen instead of making me feel worse about things. my friend also has made some comments that made me uncomfortable. we both met at a speed dating event, but never dated at it, and just chatted afterwards (very platonic). a recent misunderstanding happened and someone asked her why she had turned me down. she stated that she definitely didn’t and if i had hit on her, she would’ve “definitely asked me out”. i don’t see her this way at all, and the thought of her having feelings for me makes me really uncomfortable. i see her like a sister. i don’t really know what to do. she is a very caring friend; when i couldn’t sleep and was going through a rough time, she made me a care package, offered to give me a room, and would be there whenever i needed. she is my closest friend. on the other hand, i really can’t stand how she hates my partner and when i had to invite them both to my uni graduation ceremony, i almost had a panic attack wondering if they would get along. i just wish they could be friends. my partner is a lot more open to this idea, and has offered multiple times to hang out with her. Their tension causes me a lot of stress. has anyone else had a situation like this, or what would you do ?
TL;DR my best friend doesn’t like my partner for reasons that i don’t understand