How do you guys want to be approached?

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1. Based on that approach, I’m pretty sure I would give you an awkward look and decline to give you my contact details.

2. You should get to know them. 

3. Look if you are good looking you dont need to worry about what your pick-up line is

4. Probably cause it’s unheard of for men to get approached, try be a little more friendly and less forward it might scare them off a little. Instead of saying “you’re very hot” try “I thought you looked good”

5. You are approaching the wrong guys. You should approach me 😉

6. No one has a 100% success rate. Whoever told you that doesn’t know what they’re talking about. That approach seems doomed to fail though if you’re just walking up to people, saying they’re hot and asking for their number. You gotta talk to them a little first. 

7. Genuine advice, I think it’s cuz ur telling them they’re hot. Keep in mind, most men never get approached so we might think it’s a prank or a scam or whatever. Maybe saying smth like “i thought you were cute and I was wondering if we could go out sometime” is a more how do i say it….non-threatening way?

8. We are not just meat op..lol

   Fr tho, just “hey i think you’re attractive. I would like to get to know you. If you would like to get to know me I’ll give you my phone number.”

   Just like sex panther cologne, 60% of the time it works every time. 😎

9. Maybe just introduce yourself or strike up a conversation about something happening where you both are. I find my confidence can be intimidating to people, but it’s typically just me wanting to cut through the bullshit ( I hate small talk ) but sometimes comin in out of nowhere can be disarming.
   And you’re a babe, so if someone isn’t responding to your based on appearance alone, they’re duuuuuumb.

10. I mean if a dude said that to me I would also give an awkward look

11. It’s not 100% success rate, it’s a *significantly higher* success rate

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    My advice? Go up to him and say “you’re cute, let’s grab a drink/tea/coffee, id love to get to know you” or if you’ve already been talking say “you’re cute, I’d like to get to know you better”. You’re coming on a bit strong and you got a remember most guys don’t get compliments, getting asked out? Basically never happens. If you did that to me I’d think you’re a scammer

12. The idea that men don’t get frequently approached has people thinking that a man who *does* get approached is going to immediately jump at the opportunity. Not all men will be interested in giving their number out, either because they’re taken, they’re not attracted to you, or they just want to give their number to a stranger.

    I suggest softening your verbal approach a bit, and maybe offering your number to them on a piece of paper. That way, it’s a brief exchange where you express interest and put the ball in their court. “Hey, I think you’re really cute. Here’s my number if you’re interested.” Or something to that extent.

13. Not a guy, but just for clarification what’s the context here? Is this on dating apps or just out in the world? If it’s on dating apps, some people may want to get to know you better before immediately meeting in person, especially if you’re looking for a LTR. If it’s just out and about, not everyone is looking for a date, or you could be more forward than those guys like, or you could not be their type. Like, eventually you’ll probably meet someone who this’ll work on, but guys aren’t a monolith just like women aren’t and this is probably kind of forward for a lot of people regardless of gender.

14. That would work on me. Be yourself, so however you want to approach, do that. You just have to deal with rejection, it’s part of the process unfortunately. I don’t think there’s a 100% success rate for women, but there’s a lot less pressure, like no guy is going to think you’re creepy or a douche or whatever if you hit on them

15. If a girl came up and said “you’re hot can I get your number?” I’m going to start scanning for the camera.