I'm watching a show on Netflix about love cons – and some of this stuff could have been avoided if they just googled them! Saying they were professional athletes, or working as a specialist doctor at a specific hospital, why wouldn't you look that up?
My ADHD brain googles everything – and yes, I was that kid who read the encyclopaedia for fun as well (old nerd here, yes).
I've been out of the dating world for approx 75,000 years but surely people look others up?
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I didnt…they didn’t give off sketchy vibes that would’ve made me want to look them up. Only one I looked up..after asking permission to do so because I didn’t want to look like a stalker…was a teacher I went out with briefly. I looked up his staff pictures on his districts website but that was it.
Are we supposed to Google/ otherwise investigate our dates now or am I just naive?
Yeah people google, but not everyone thinks that way. Some folks just trust what they’re told, or don’t want to feel creepy checking. Honestly, a quick search can save you from a lot of headaches. No shame in verifying.
I’m basically invisible on the internet. I have a super common name, nearly no social media, my job doesn’t post my information. If you google me and my city nothing about me shows up. I’d imagine plenty of people are like this.
when i google myself or my friends i get a bunch of info back from my elementary school years so it never occurred to me to google others
There was this time once, I was talking to a guy for a couple of weeks and at one point, i concluded he met all the criteria to be a catfish.
I blocked him. Then one day I was bored at work and decided to google him, and turns out he was legit and to this day I feel horrible for not having researched before. Of course he was just a guy I was talking to and no feelings developed, no commitment was made, but I have that pesky “what if” in my mind ever since.
Doesn’t keep me super awake at night, but every time a date fumbles, I think about him. Too late for an apology now, but I have learned my lesson and I always do my research.
Ofc I do full research. Not because a date seems sketchy or something, but because I’m a bit nosy and want to find things out, and I don’t see anything wrong with it. If it’s on the internet, it’s there for others to see, so it’s not creepy.
Sometimes but sometimes I can’t find them! I care more about what comes up when I google myself
yes. google them, look at their socials if they have them, look their name up in the county court records, look their phone number up and see what’s associated; especially if from a dating app, you do not know these people, especially men, a large percentage of dating app users are in a relationship or married; better to find out this way; but i have spoke to and found worse: wanted recently for domestic violence and mugshots on counties website and facebook for one example… women fall in love with their ears, men fall in love with their eyes; the smartest con men know this and know exactly what to say, they may sound the best but in fact be the worst, people should use more logic when dating, love is a choice, make smart ones