I’m sorry if this is long
Im 33F and my fiancé is 33M and as the title states we haven’t talked in more than a week.. During July, we argued a lot, but before that everything was great.. towards the end of July something happened that bothered him and he basically said that this plus everything else piled up has made him not happy and that he’s so stressed out and can’t focus at work because of everything. nobody else thinks the things that happened are a big deal even his own dad but after that, he told me that it would be better for us to break up and he’s gonna call my dad and tell him that it’s over because we are Middle Eastern he had to come ask my dad for my hand and that would be the proper way to end it. but I apologized for the things I did and they haven’t happened again even tho it was all petty stuff, we talked and agreed to move on. He never called my dad btw. I saw him three weeks ago he took me to a really nice dinner and we talked and he said I’m not done that he still loves me and I’m important to him and he cares about me. But he needs to see some change before moving forward as in getting married. I said ok. He even came to dinner with my family that night. A few things happened after that that were kind of strange. After that, he messaged me and said I think it’s better if we break up and I was like what are you talking about, We just talked about this two days ago? everything was fine for about a week and then I saw him a few days later he was quite I asked what’s wrong and he said just dealing with work stuff and after he became weird. That week He would take a day or two to respond to messages. Asked him what’s up why are you ignoring me He said i’m just dealing with work stuff and I’m not in a good headspace right now. I tried to be there for him, but obviously I can’t do that if he’s not talking to me the next day he text me when I have some free time we probably need to talk. I said OK to break up. He never responded so I sent a? He said when I’m free I’ll let you know that was last Thursday so it’s been a week and three days now that we haven’t spoken. I sent him a message two days ago saying what’s going on,he never responded. We are still friends on social media. He hasn’t blocked me or anything and when I posted the other day, he watched it right away..
His uncle that came with him to ask for my hand called me a couple days ago to ask how everything was and I told him about everything going on and he called my fiancé and normally he’s not one to talk but he was telling him what’s going on and he said sometimes when I’m upset with her ignore her for a week and the guy said that’s not OK and basically telling him you love her and she loves you and unless shes a bad person he said no she’s good and kind and basically saying good things about me, then you guys can work it out and he seemed ok and said yeah there’s just some stuff that I ned to talk to her about and we still need to find a place. Then he said to him she called you and complained huh and the guy said no. I’m just answering based off what you’re saying. the uncle text me and said I don’t think he’s gonna break up with you. I think he’s gonna continue but I don’t know why he’s still not talking to you. Ignoring someone is not good in any case, but I can slightly understand if it wasn’t serious but we’re engaged. Now, at this point I don’t know what’s going on like is this just him needing space or is he trying to just distance himself so it’s easier for him to break up with me but if that’s what he wants why didn’t he just tell the Uncle that? Im so upset and bothered is this really just about him needing space because there might be something wrong which is fine but say that. He would txt me good morning every morning and when he got home. Now not a single txt..
I’m not trying to be naïve, but I don’t think that it has anything to do with another woman because this guy really is working all day long but at the same time people make time. But everyone knows we’re together even his celebs do i can’t imagine he’d risk being seen out with someone or anything like that. By the way, this is someone that I’ve known for four years. The first date we ever went on he said i found my future wife to his friend. We were together four years ago for two years on and off and didn’t talk for two years. we went to a mutual friend’s wedding in December and got back together a couple days later, he came and talked to my dad in March so we’ve been engaged for six months now and we were supposed to do a religious ceremony in August. so I don’t think that this has to do with him not being emotionally available or not taking it seriously or any of that but idk what to think, my friends his dad the uncle nobody thinks he’s gonna break up with me, but I don’t get this silence not even to check on me. He has my location and probably sees I’m home so maybe that’s why but that doesn’t make it on. Could this really be just because of all the stress and not being able to focus and rethinking if he wants to continue just everything piling up on top of each other or is it that he just is done or is it someone else?
TL;DR; How long am I supposed to give him “space”