I've always been firmly against dating in the workplace. For the past 10 years, it’s been a personal boundary I never crossed—until recently. About two months ago, a coworker and I started spending time together outside of work. She initiated the connection, and at first, everything was completely platonic. But over time, I developed feelings for her.
Eventually, I expressed how I felt, and she admitted she liked me too. However, we both agreed that we couldn’t pursue anything romantic due to the nature of our roles—she works in HR, and I’m a junior executive. While I’m not her direct manager, I am technically in a leadership position that could be perceived as having influence over her, which poses ethical and professional risks for both of us.
We’ve been careful—avoiding anything that could be seen as romantic or inappropriate, especially at work or in public where coworkers might see us. Still, our connection is growing stronger, and we've gone out a few times in ways that felt more like dates than just coworkers hanging out.
Interestingly, the Director of HR seems to have picked up on our chemistry but hasn't addressed it directly or raised concerns. Regardless, we're both actively exploring new job opportunities—partly to remove the professional barrier between us, but also for unrelated career reasons.
My dilemma is this: I care about her, and I want to see where this could go, but I'm also acutely aware of how fragile this situation is. One rumor or misinterpretation could be damaging, especially for me, given the power dynamic.
I’d appreciate any advice on how to navigate this responsibly without compromising either of our careers.