Well, matched and immediately hit it off. Chatting, banter, flirting, he hinted at meeting up then and there, but I couldn’t so suggested meeting that night. He already had a date lined up. Ok, honest, kinda flaggy but ok, he suggests meeting me at 9 AFTER his date saying he felt we had so much in common and would feel rude cancelling on the other. And I say yes like the dumby I am. We keep chatting, started FaceTiming for almost 2 hours. I shouldn’t have indulged him but here we are. Stupid me. So, we hang up. I’m getting ready, we keep texting up until his date. Which is apparently now going amazing because I’m still home and now in my pjs. Why was I so dumb and why are men like this? Just why?


9 comments

  1. You should never feel like you’re leftovers after a main dish. It’s possible that you could have rearranged another date and time, but for him to see you after his initial date raise his serious red flags.

  2. It is very simple: You matched with a person who has options and is manifesting this kind of behaviour because of it. So, you either put your hat in the ring and compete, or don’t and look elsewhere. It is probably worth your peace to move on and look elsewhere.

  3. Are you looking for something casual? This story screams that he is just looking for a hookup.

  4. He got a “high” off the ego boost and probably used that boost of confidence to go out on this date and it may or may not have gone well. But the issue you here is people like us are a one at a time person talked – while these “men” are cereal daters and they don’t care what they do to get ahead or see how many women they can get involved with

  5. What’s done is done. In the future, just tell them that you have other plans (even if u don’t) and stop giving them ur time.
    Someone whose disrespect about my time isn’t it for me.

  8. He’s probably just horny. Don’t put effort into somebody using you a second or third option

  9. Call him out on it. If a guy is flaky with me, I text him and give him a chance to explain. I mean, maybe an emergency happened or there is some kind of other reasonable explanation. If he comes back with some kind of flaky reply (like, “oops I forgot” or something like that), I tell him straight out that I prefer men who back up their words with actions and that I’m no longer interested.

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