I (M27) matched with this girl (F25) about three weeks ago or so. We talked everyday, had a lot in common, followed each other on instagram, and everything was going really smoothly. I honestly thought she could be different and I was really excited on where this could be going. We got real emotionally intimate about our lives, our future plans, and our upbringing.
As we were talking one night, she asked me what I was looking for, to which I responded, I was looking for something long term, like my future wife, etc. She said she was also looking for the same thing and she doesn't like "messing around". We continued to talk for days after that, up until she said she had a work event to attend during the weekend. We didn't talk during the weekend, on the following Monday, I had asked her how the event was. No reply, just ghosted. She was still posting on Ig and even updated her profile picture. A few days later during the week, I followed up with her to ask if she wanted meet up for coffee but she said was going to be out of town again. What followed was this giant text saying how she wasn't ready for a relationship and she was still going through things, and that she was down to meet me but only as friends and see where it goes from there. I basically told her I wasn't looking for friends and that she knew my intentions, and it was nice knowing her and good luck.
Which leads to my question, was I in the right to cut her off or should I have given her the benefit of the doubt and see where it could've led from friends to something serious? This happened about a week ago and still contemplating my decision.
One of my friends told me this girl does want a relationship, but just not with me. After going through something like this, I am about ready to give up on dating or take a long break.