I think people have a pretty divided opinion on whether it’s attractive or a turn-off.

I’ve heard female friends complain that they want men to be more persistent, to try to change their minds after, for example, declining a date invite. Their mindset makes sense if you consider that over the years, men would relentlessly make their advances and women would play hard-to-get.

Some men agree that persistence is the best approach. They say that women are more likely to consider them an option.

​Then, on the other hand, there are women who don’t like persistence. Trying to change their mind just pisses them off.​

I think it depends on how we persist. Persistence is attractive if it’s in the context of finding ways or times that both of us would like to do. But it’s a turn-off if we can’t get a hard no or a hint to leave them alone.

Thoughts?


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